Gypsy Picnic. Gypsy Zing Sauce.

I have a new favorite salon and it’s in the drab and under-appreciated city of Worcester, Massachusetts. I’ve never been a spa or salon girl—in fact, if I could cut and color my own hair, as nicely as I cut the lawn and color the garden with flowers, I would do it.

Drab hip is what’s cool about Worcester—there’s a fragmented grunginess about the city that leaves itself alone. Not much legacy or nouveau riche, dreadfully fine* money polishes its urban edges. Go in search of somewhere to hang out, and you’ll feel yourself pulled into a pause. Disoriented, you could be right, you could be wrong about where you’re standing. Something creeps underneath the radar, maybe. There are no crowds to follow and no painted lines to a tourist kiosk. No costumed, smiling docents. The art museum is superb. The array of educational institutions is world class. There are great places to eat and drink. And there are businesses, like Barney’s Bike Shop, with an excellent link on their website about where to hit the road, or the trail, with a bike.

*Dreadfully Fine: I learned this from my son and his friends in college—it means you are depressed due to the fact that everything about your life is so dreadfully fine.

The beauty salon I found in Worcester is Tu Moda Spa and Salon on Pleasant Street. Their decor is American slash European-Hill-Town slash Almost-Chic, and the music piped in, at least during my last several visits, has been tres hip. (Important.)

The European thing lured me to this salon when I went looking for a place to take my daughter for her birthday. She is a spa girl. She is also a lucky charm and I ended up finding a hairstylist at Tu Moda I like a lot. My new hairstylist is tres tres tres tres tres hip. Five-star hip.

First of all, she loves Acadia National Park. So do I. She loves it through and through. She loves how she can go there with a group of friends, and there’s something for everyone. She loves how it’s hidden, but not really, in New England.

She loves to cook. Me too.

She loves to bake, but thinks it’s more challenging than cooking. Same.

She traveled to visit family, as a child, into the summertime countrysides near Amsterdam. The beauty formed within her while spending time with her family, (for she talks of it with joy), has not faded.

Today, when I sat in my hairstylist’s chair, I told her about the recipes I cut out of the Boston Globe and the New York Times. We gushed on and on about radishes fresh from the farm in summertime. There was a recipe in the paper for Butter-Stewed Radishes. I told her I think everyone should get a hard-copy of the newspaper, at least on the days featuring Food. You can tear out the recipes, and keep them. After reading through the newspaper food sections, first thing in the morning, right off the bat you’re ready to saddle up the horse and ride to a farmer’s market.

My hairstylist loves music festivals and following favorite bands.

She loves her dog. I don’t know her dog, but if I did, I am sure I would love her dog, too.

She likes to wander around Worcester and find great bakeries, great places to drink coffee, great bars to share beers with friends.

She tells me about unknown bakeries and funky shops and where to eat the best brunch.

She loves gardens and is helping her friend make a garden at her friend’s new house in Providence. I told her about the Beacon Hill Garden Tour. I said she and her friend should go on the tour together to find ideas for small, delicious, dreamy, urban gardens. She said spending money to go to Boston for a day with a friend to look at gardens, would be worth every penny.

She was an artist in high school, applied to art schools, was accepted, but couldn’t afford to attend any of them. So, she became a hairstylist, because it was something else she thought she would enjoy doing.

She is a cheerful artist who is a hairstylist—perhaps it’s a little bit like being a happy poet who is a therapist. But way more fun.

She lives with, and takes care of, her father. He had a stroke a few years ago.

She told me her father had always admired Bob Dylan, so she took him to a concert several years ago. Elvis Costello was the opening act. Dylan was horrible, she said, and she felt awful for her father. I told her we went to the same show and thought, thank goodness for Elvis Costello, because Dylan was lost in a caricature of his many selves, all of them muddied into one unappealing performance. We both said it can’t be easy to be an artist who is expected to perform, and live up to, great expectations.

I especially like when my hairstylist tells me gentle stories about her father. He used to enjoy cooking. So, she will ask him what he might want for dinners, they will talk about recipes, and then she will assemble the ingredients and orchestrate the process–making sure to allow him to cook as much as he can.

I tell her how much my husband loves to cook and how he will artfully arrange the food just so, taking his time to arrange perfect sprays of fresh herbs, perfect brush strokes of secret sauces, and perfect garnishes of fruit, flowers, or veggies. She says her father wants to do all of that, too. She said he used to work in the garden so she recently bought him small, terrarium gardens to tend, after she found them at an eclectic and strange shop in Worcester called Seed to Stem.

She told me I would probably like Seed to Stem.

I told her my husband’s father loved to cook, too, but he suffered a massive stroke almost three years ago and didn’t survive. He liked to garden, too, and used to grow pleasing varieties of tomatoes for all of his children, from seed, in a unique set-up of lights and growing trays down in his basement. I looked forward to his special deliveries every spring, and his concentrated instructions for transferring the plants into the Earth. After I situated the tomato plants into the garden, my father-in-law never ceased to check in on how they were doing. I made sure to give him frequent updates on the details of our flavorful excursions through the ripe skins of those precious tomatoes.

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Today, my appointment was early, so my hairstylist asked if I had any plans for the rest of the day. I said that after reading all the foodie pages in the newspaper, I wanted to design a picnic because my husband and I were going to Vermont to ski and I wanted to pack something new for our lunch.

So far this season, I told her, I’d made homemade chicken salad sandwiches and outrageous homemade meatloaf sandwiches for our ski trip lunch picnics. The meatloaf was an experiment using leftover beef, veal, and pork after my husband made bolognese.

I said I planned to stop at BirchTree Bread, (drab hip warehouse space), over in the Blackstone Canal District to have a cup of soup and check out the breads. The chef there is no hobbyist. He’s focused on food. The morning’s newspaper had included some press about his hideout in Worcester.

Then I hoped to stop at Trader Joe’s.

But now, I said to my hairstylist, I would add her recommended detour to the funky shop—Seed to Stem.

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When I got to BirchTree Bread, I tried a killer cup of celery root soup. Great music played on the sound system. (Important.) I slurped the soup surrounded by gray-toned scales of urban decay, blending old warehouse and mill buildings into a sturdy mid-day wash of melting snow, mud, and wet fog. The restaurant space is vast. Computers glowed. One little boy, wearing a bright yellow slicker, laughed. A man conducted business on his phone. People socialized. I was alone, anonymous, content. The pace of my breath slowed to imaginative thoughts. Efforts to preserve history loitered on city streets so deserted, I could make a U-turn on them, in a tandem-tractor trailer, in one fell swooping turn.

God bless BirchTree Bread for bringing some faith to the city. I bought a fresh loaf of their rosemary ciabatta and commenced hunting for the rest of a designer picnic lunch.

Next, I stopped at Seed to Stem. Good music playing! My hairstylist didn’t divulge details about the shop, so when I arrived, surprises were well appreciated. I took some pictures of things that were not for sale.

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I found something that was for sale, about another city I like a lot:

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At Trader Joe’s, I bought flowers. (Best flowers, best prices, best displays.)

I bought Trader Joe’s thick slices of cooked and salted turkey.

I bought Italian dry salami and pepper jack cheese.

Ideas for sandwich designs began rising and falling in my mind.

For the picnic side dish, I selected a bag of sweet-potato snack chips.

And for dessert, I bought Trader Joe’s dark-chocolate peanut butter cups.

I drove home, unloaded the groceries, and rummaged through the fridge for sandwich start-ups and add-ons.

There was a half can of tomato paste calling out to be rescued.

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Final design:

GYPSY SKI PICNIC ZINGWICH

Trader Joe’s cooked, sliced turkey.

Italian dry salami.

Pepper jack cheese.

Lettuce. Tomato.

Fresh cilantro.

Gypsy Zing Sauce.

BirchTree rosemary ciabatta bread.

(Sweet bread and butter pickles—optional.)

Gypsy Zing Sauce: 1/4 c. mayonnaise—3 or so tablespoons of tomato paste—a teaspoon and a dash more of Worcestershire sauce (Worcester!)—half a lemon squeezed out (probably about a tablespoon)—sea salt—coarse ground pepper.

The sandwich contains multitudinous flavors of drab hip, gypsy grit—with zing.

Bon appétit, picnic lovers!

The ReStore. Gypsy Treasures.

Good will meets home improvement and treasure hunting. The ReStore. Here’s a nonprofit home improvement center selling furniture, building materials, appliances, office furniture, light fixtures, tools, tchotchkes–all at a fraction of retail pricing in a warehouse that’s a lot easier to walk through (and get out of before your life is over), than Ikea. The dollars earned support Habitat for Humanity. You can donate, or shop, or do both. We took a Saturday morning excursion to check it out. Gold Star Blvd. Worcester. (There are other locations throughout the land.) Check out the ReStore blog on their website to jumpstart your creative energy and get ideas on how to restore ReStore finds. IMG_2949

Let’s use and reuse what we already have. If container ships keep unloading stuff on America’s shorelines, and the stuff keeps getting distributed throughout the land,

America is going to SINK.

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The first easy-bake oven. But look! Old, sturdy file cabinets. I have an idea. Use them as walls, slap on a roof and line them up for dorm housing. Every student has five drawers. One drawer/per day of the week to organize what you will wear that day. Eliminates excessive clothing all over the floor, excessive clothes flowing out of closets, and excessive clothes overloading washing machines. Reduces student stress–just open the drawer marked, “Monday”, when it’s Monday, and proceed to get dressed. Return clothes to the drawer for the next Monday.For weekends, choose clothes at random from the five drawers.

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Impressive selection of tables. Great for art studios, restaurants, classrooms.

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More fun than the Big Apple. Buy this ensemble for a party, serve some kind of apple-themed dish, get a few oohs and ahhs and what funs from your guests, and then give it back to the ReStore to sell again! Ten bucks. Or, fill the big apple with some bling, like shiny beads. Let children scoop out some of the bling to put into their little apples and they can string together necklaces or bracelets. Or, make a big apple container of white buttercream frosting. Then use the little apple containers to make frostings in all different colors. Then decorate cut out cookies–shaped like apples! Or, fill the little apple containers with rainbow sprinkles, tiny chocolate chips, tiny m&m’s, teeny dots (whatever those are called). Put melted chocolate in the big apple. Have on deck, ready to dip, big marshmallows. Dip and swirl them in the chocolate, then swirl them through the decorations. Let set. I am already feeling buyer’s remorse because I left this great toy behind at the ReStore. IMG_2939

I wasn’t going to buy anything. But then I saw these bowls and I fell for the green color. Two for a dollar.

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I brought them home and liked them even more. I looked them up on the Internet. Fire-King Jade-ite Swirl Pattern Bowls. From the 1950’s. Some people were selling them for up to $50. Martha Stewart is hoarding them in all her houses.

I FOUND A TREASURE.

I have become captivated by my treasure.

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Early morning tea, looking at the exquisite curves of the horizon, the rising sun, my new bowl.

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I draped some of my rosaries over the side of the bowl.

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The next one is from the Sacre Coeur in Paris.

I bought it when I lit a candle there for my cousin Amy who was going to have a baby.

It looks like a perfect prayer for a little baby.

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I put my most favorite bowl, into the new bowl. My daughter painted this bowl for me.

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Another work of art, placed into the bowl. This is a clay sculpture by my son when he was little.

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The original set up for my son’s clay pot is on top of a rock painted by my daughter. I keep this sculpture on my desk.

With a newspaper clipping inside the clay pot:

“I have drawn things since I was 6.

All that I made before the age of 65 is not worth counting.

At 73, I began to understand the true construction of animals, plants, trees,

birds, fishes, and insects.

At 90, I will enter into the secret of things.

At 110, everything–every dot, every dash–will live.”  Hokusai

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The bowls make a nice trap for trolls, bad thoughts, wasteful grumblings. Errant ants, spiders, and ladybugs.

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MADE IN USA.

When you leave the ReStore, you check out near a nice display of clocks. Seattle, Denver, Chicago, and Worcester times. Why Dublin time for the big clock? Because the store manager loves Ireland.

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IT’S A GOOD LUCK STORE!

Habitat for Humanity. Building Soul.

First home. It’s a little house on the prairie or in the big woods. It’s a flower-laden cottage in the English countryside. With bunnies. It’s a Gilded Age grand slam on the coast of New England. It’s a tiki hut, well hidden, in a grove of bamboo along a river that runs to the sea, on the island of Kauai. (Three waterfalls crown the hanging valleys all around it.) It’s a castle in Scotland. A townhouse–in Paris, or Rome, or New York City.

It’s the first fort you built in the woods where you played all day without a helmet on, or a cell phone in your pocket, or a friend. You were all alone. It took you about three whistled and hummed versions of “Hey Jude” to ride your bike there. (The fat-tired junker from the town dump your dad fixed up. The bike had a fender, with a rack over it. You could stack and tie salvaged wood to the rack and haul it to your own building site in the forest. You took the wood from scattered piles of scrap around the construction sites of new homes that were popping up, like swarms of giddy grasshoppers, from the glacier-scraped flatlands of Indiana to form America’s newest suburban dreamvilles.)

Not yet ten years old–you staked out your fort’s foundation, leaned walls in on each other, and when you set the roof, your heart skipped a beat. You crawled inside and sat like a little buddha, all the world’s mysteries at rest inside the tranquil float of your newborn gypsy soul–the one you cleansed every Saturday morning in the confession stall at church. Where you told lies. Because you never kept track of your sins.

Gardens, you soon thought. Now that I have a home in the woods, I ought to tidy up the land around it and make everything look really nice. And you arranged rocks into nice rows, raked out the dirt, made little seats with logs.

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I was displaced–always on the lam for a  new home–throughout my life. From the time I was a baby until after college, I lived in about 13 different houses, in three disparate regions of America–the midwest, the southwest, and the northeast. I attended seven different schools from fifth grade through 12th grade.  “Did all that moving and all of those schools have an effect on you?” Someone once asked me.

Here’s one story about it: My parents, who had seven children, (the last one was born in Arizona), scrambled through the economic classes in the blink of a childhood–mine. Mom and Dad’s first house looked like the houses in the picture below which stand across the street from where our house was–now there’s just a vacant expanse of grass near a warehouse in Ft. Wayne, Indiana, where the ideals of home started for my family. IMG_2955 IMG_2958

Mom and Dad bought a new house eventually. (But kept the first one as rental property–a key move for building wealth.) The new house wasn’t much bigger. Dad built a garage behind it. (Sweat equity.) They planted a little tree in the front yard. It’s the only big tree on the street growing in any front yard–still. That tree is the most regal thing we left behind. A good way to leave your mark!  “Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.” Martin Luther.

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Mom and Dad’s sweat equity helped all seven of their children end up in college. We were like every other family–the wars inside of each of us, got mixed up with the wars between each other, got mixed up with the wars from intruders and events beyond our household. But–no matter where we lived–Mom and Dad made our house a home. We kept our homes fixed up, we planted gardens, and we ate dinner together.

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A gypsy kid never forgets how cruddy it feels to be an outsider. When everything else is foreign to you, a home isn’t. It’s the one place where you can land and try to get it together and find someone to love. So, when I was approached, recently, by the Massachusetts Master Gardeners Outreach Coordinator and asked if I would consider volunteering as a garden designer for Habitat for Humanity, I didn’t even have to take a minute to think about it.

Habitat for Humanity was founded on, and remains devoted to, a non-denominational Christian housing ministry.  People with scant resources who desire to own their own home (such a sacred dream!) can apply for a home through Habitat for Humanity regardless of race, religion, or ethnicity.

Volunteers must support the organization’s mission statement: “Seeking to put God’s love into action, Habitat for Humanity brings people together to build homes, communities, and hope.”

Habitat for Humanity is not a give-away. Applicants agree to invest 500 hours of sweat equity into the building of their own homes and they agree to help build other homes or, if they are disabled, they agree to work in other, suitable capacities. They pay their own mortgage. And–this is where I get to be involved–the new homeowners need to learn how to keep their homes looking nice outside and how to take care of their property. If any of them would like to learn how to become gardeners, (and some have already expressed interest), we will coach them and encourage them to do that also.

The first garden I ever had was outside my apartment building in Boston. It was about the size of my childhood bed–where I passed many nights pretending that someday I would be rich and have a swimming pool. That dream ended when I became a camping girl and my dream house started to look like this lean-to in Vermont with a view to the Green Mountains: 51656099 elm If you look closely, the lean-to has a desk and a bookshelf in it.

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Habitat for Humanity believes sweat equity can build decent housing and dignity, it can create stability for families, it leads to health, safety, and security in communities, and–it opens up job and educational opportunities. I believe in sweat equity, too. It’s the one resource you have, when you begin with nothing, that will transform your life and enrich your soul.

“We have all known the long loneliness, and we have found that the answer is community.” Dorothy Day.

Everyone needs a place where they can set their soul afloat. And what a dream-come-true it would be, if you could call that place, home.